My Thoughts on MARRIAGE..

  MARRIAGE..

Hey there! I am going to share some of the insights I know about THAT THING! You got it! MARRIAGE!

I am not married; therefore, I wouldn’t want to juggle here and write what I don’t know and then have married individuals reading this post later and start skinning me alive! Lol.

But honestly, in your period of singlehood/ unmarried hood, its very critical to prepare, like you’re preparing to join another institution. When we were preparing to join University, we had to go through the period of training in high school, to have us qualify for the next level. And I tend to think the same is the case for marriage.

Marriage is something that we ought to prepare to enter because honestly, whatever you don’t prepare for, you’ll have yourself making silly mistakes that will affect your life forever.

Anyway, I desired to wear a wedding gown from when I was a little girl, I suppose it’s the dream of every lady growing up! We want to walk down the aisle alongside our folks and have the knight in full armor standing at the altar with his folks, looking at you and blushing maybe! Hahaha! And the Queen and her King live forever happily ever after. Like a fairy tale sort of. If only, it could be like played out in cartoons. I loved Pocahontas, and how she deemed herself as a fairy queen who had everything at hand and etcetera. She would wear a crown and those long dresses with jewelry and go to the river and start singing as she waited for that guy. I have enclosed a pictorial. hehe!

But wait, come out from all that picture that I have just tried to create in your mind and let’s look deeply at the society today.

One of the things I know is that Marriage as an institution is something that the enemy has fought since the time of our first earthly parents, Adam and Eve. Marriage has always been God’s design, but the enemy brought out sooooo many misconceptions to destroy the very plan and purpose that God had outlined, but guess what? There’s a remnant that has been set aside for the glory of God.

It’s the basic unit of the society. A healthy society and a strong family foundation are related. So, if the society has got to be healthy, then the foundation of the family has got to be strong. And Vice versa.

The ills in our society are because we’re coming from a shacky family foundation. When you see one ‘spouse’ killing their partner, or conspiring to kill their partner, then there is something wrong. It’s become so common in the news in Kenya and even around the world. Human life is not valued! Gone are the days when the institution of marriage was feared because of its standards.

But today, people are getting married every Saturday or Sunday and divorcing like nothing happened. The name of marriage has been shuttered. You get married and your spouse starts playing offside with a third party or more because people don’t care. The vows that are said at the altar are just empty words that are forgotten immediately the last present is given on their wedding day!

Its such a pity! People prepare more for the wedding than they do for marriage! You’re getting married and you have never asked God for wisdom to become a noble husband or wife for His glory! You don’t sit down with other married individuals who have made it and asked them how they keep their glue together. You have never read a single book on marriage, yet you’re anticipating getting married. Brothers and sisters, I believe that if we are to win the war that has been unleashed against Godly Marital Unions then we must be serious! We need to look for a strategy!

Ephesians 5:25-33“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, of which he is the Savior… Husbands, Love your Wives, as Christ Loved the Church and gave Himself up for her, that he may sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word…..”. For me, that is the puzzle that God put and that we must live by to have a strong union and a healthy society.

If the wife submits, and the husband loves the wife, I think we’re all good. Mind you, its submission in everything. I was hearing a sermon one time by Apostle Joshua Selman, and he said that, ladies, if you’re not ready to submit to everything, you’re not ready for marriage and men, if you’re not ready to love and have passion for your wife and wife alone , forget marriage.

The society will become healthier when wives submitted, which was something that God didn’t put in women on purpose and so He made it a command that she should live by and the same case to the man in loving his wife alone!

A marriage that honors God and has a great impact in the society is a marriage that glorifies God.

A marriage that lives by the rules outlined in the Word of God is a marriage that glories God.

Dr. Mamusha Fetna spoke during the family discipleship conference hosted by CITAM in July and said, Marriage is about God. It’s a response to the kingdom that we are given and we worship in marriage by wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving their wives.

When you serve your husband, you’re worshiping God and when you love your wife, you’re worshiping God.

That is the whole essence, lets also do the weddings the Godly way, and have the full blessing, from all witnesses, (Our parents and families, the Church and the Society).

What a glorious society we will become and fully rooted in Christ our Solid Rock.

Have a blissful Marriage, if you’re married and those in the waiting, Wait as you learn!

God bless you!

Winnie.💜